Hi! I'm Liz and I lead the Young Adult Grief Support Group at Lost and Found. The group is for young adults ages 18-30 who have experienced the death of a loved one. We meet two evenings a month in a relaxed setting and share our stories with one another. To find out more, you may post your questions on this Blog and I'll do my best to answer them. You can find more specificinformation about our organization on our website: http://lostandfoundozarks.com
The grief work done at Lost and Found is dear to my heart because as a 16 year old my mother suffered a severely debilitating rupture of a cerebral aneurysm, and died three years later from another cerebral incident. I experienced grief from the loss of a parent, and wish with all of my heart that there had been a place like Lost and Found where I could have found support to help me through the pain, confusion, and loneliness that comes from such a loss. I am passionate about the purpose of our work at Lost and Found and am always amazed and encouraged at the strength of the human spirit that is so evident in the individuals who are reaching out to one another in our Young Adult Grief Support Group.
We are starting this blog as another way of supporting one another by sharing our questions, concerns, and stories. Please introduce yourself and post your story
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Welcome to Lost and Found Share!
Welcome everyone! It is great to have you. Here you will find a place to talk about your grief experience and meet the people in the Young Adult Grief Group that meets at Lost & Found. I will post some thoughts to hopefully get discussions going so please feel free to respond.
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Well, all right. My name is Sarah King, and I first attended the Young Adult Grief Group last Wednesday, November 12. I grew up in Norman, Oklahoma but am attending college at Drury University. I'm 21 years old and in my final year as an English, Writing, and Theatre major. I hope to pursue playwrighting.
On the last day of August of this year, my father died. One minute he was snoring, the next he was quiet and blue. My mother was home, she tried CPR, she called the ambulance. They got his heart started a few times, but it didn't stick. Nobody can really tell us why he died, he just... died. It all feels surreal, like a hoax. I talked to him two days before. We were planning a time for him to come visit me. There were so many plans, so much more I wanted to share with him. And then he was taken away. I am very angry and confused. I feel like I've lost my faith in the good. I now live in a world where someone I love could up and die at any second, for no reason at all.
I keep a picture of my father by my bed, a picture of him holding me as an infant. He's looking up at the camera with this look on his face, "Uh-oh," like he had no idea what he was getting into with this tiny child. He wasn't the best father, as therapists keep telling me, but he was mine, and he loves me very much.
Sarah,
I am glad that you sought out Lost and Found as a support during this difficult period. What a story, you have.
I am so sorry for your loss and imagine that you must feel like you are walking on thin ice right now. It is totally understandable that you are feeling angry and confused. All order and fairness is absent from this experience and makes you wonder when something like this will up and happen again, at any time. What normal thoughts and reactions you are willing to share!
I am looking forward to meeting you at our next Lost and Found meeting. I firmly believe that sharing your story and embracing the support of others who have the shared experience of loss will help you to heal.
Thanks for you post.
Hello my name is Allison Rosado and I am form Tulsa Oklahoma but moved to Springfield almost 3 years ago with my soon to be husband. Eric and I got married on April 1,2006 and he passed away June 14, 2008. He was in Tulsa when he passed away and I was on my way to a family reunion. Eric's death came as a shock to us all and at times I wish I could just wake up from this nightmare. I made it through Thanksgiving which I never thought I could do. I did it with alot of tears and hugs but I did it. I love going to Lost and Found they have helped me so much. Thank you Lost and FOund.
My name is Stella, 24 years old. This has been a bittersweet year with lots of ups and downs, very low downs. My long-time fiancé and I found out we were pregnant February of this year and 8 weeks later lost the pregnancy. My wonderful and beautiful mom was there to guide me through an experience that seemed, at the time, very unfair. Then on June 2nd, my mom died suddenly of a heart attack, actually ventricular fibrillation. This is where the heart trembles rather than beats and death occurs in a matter of minutes. Everything in my world was turned upside down. UNFAIR! She was a young 43 years and in decent health and no prior heart or health conditions. I feel blessed that God allowed me to be the last to talk to her. We had a wonderful relationship, she was my best friend, and was fortunate to spend a great Sunday (the day before God took her) together. I was the one she called when she was having chest pains. I was the one that found her on the floor SECONDS after she passed out due to lack of blood flow. I was the one that performed CPR until the paramedics got there. I was the one who decided not to tell her we were pregnant again until after we were 3 months along so that we could make sure the pregnancy was OK. I don’t regret anything with my mom because our relationship was close to perfect and she KNEW everyday how much I loved/love her. I wish with all my heart I could’ve shared how excited we are about his baby. He is due December 22nd. I miss my mom and wish she were here with me to experience this. My long time fiancé also became my husband in September. She had to miss that one too. She was very excited about the long-time-coming wedding. What a surreal experience walking down the aisle without my mom there. She has been gone 6 months ago this last Tuesday. I feel like I haven’t seen and talked to her in forever, and at the same time, I feel like she just died yesterday. God, I miss her so much!
One of the things that some grieving people have found helpful in expressing their feelings is to write a letter to their loved one. In the letter you can share your love, your sorrow, your disappointments, your anger, etc... and you can say "Good-bye" in a way that you my have been robbed of. Why don't you try it? If you would like to share your writing at our next meeting, please bring your letter with you, of if you choose to keep the experience a personal one, then take that path. Do what works for you!
thi my name is Stephanie and i lost my 4yr old daughter in february of 09. she was born with several heart conditions and had a total of 3 openheart surgerys and at least 8 cariac caths. loosing a her has been the worst thing i've had to go through. it has effected every aspect of my life and changed my thoughts on everything.i wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy... Tatum was so beautiful she would brighten up any room. there was over 150 people at her visitation and funeral.. so i guess i have to say we must have done something right. her little brother misses her so much he is not sleeping at night which means noone sleeps. the thing that has helped me deal with her passing is a website called gonetoosoon.org you can set up a memorial for you loved ones and light candles and share pictures of their lives. in the end i have to relize that Tatum was too precious to keep on earth and that she would want us to go on and be happy.LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST AND CHERISH EVERYTHING.
so we had another great group last night. we have had a few new people come and join us (WELCOME TO YOU) and i hope they get out as much as i have gotten out of it. we really have a great group that is caring and willing to go the extra mile to help the others out. i look forward to every meeting.
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